I seem to recall Dennis Prager hosting a group of young women and asking what they wanted for their future, a good career or a good marriage. I believe 2/3 said 'career'. The one who said marriage was older and talked about how she thought it would be easier and that she would just fall into a marriage relationship. It hadn't happened yet.
Marriage is no longer taught as a value, but career is. We spend a lot of time talking to kids about college and work and career. We spend surprisingly little time talking about the centrality of marriage and family to happiness and health.
Another woman interviewed by Dennis was 35 and open to marriage, 'if the right man comes along'. The right man comes along in the pages of fiction and on the silver screen, but not your cubicle. Relationships and marriage have to be a priority and you have to be looking.
More than looking, young woman need to be proactive and selective. They should be sorting through men like lumber, looking for the straightest, strongest boards made from the strongest trees. Put the rest on the scrap pile. You can build a house from scraps and cardboard but will it stand the tests of time? Shared faith and values are key, shared goals are necessary, shared experiences are helpful, and all of these are harder to find the longer you wait. Also, if you want kids, the clock is ticking so don't waste too much time dating for fun, date with a purpose. Every relationship is an interview and audition even if he is too dumb to realize it and trust me, guys in their twenties are just that.
Marriage civilizes men. It stabilizes society. It is the foundation of family and family is the cornerstone of society. A great marriage is to me, far more impressive than a great career. A great marriage that produces great children who go on the have great marriages and families, is the Holy Grail. We should do a better job of teaching that.
by Dennis Prager
Find someone in your 20s. That's when you're still very cute. That's when you're still amiable to working out problems with someone. It's harder in your 50s, when you've lived alone, to compromise with someone, to have someone in your home and every little thing about them annoys you because you're so used to being alone. It's hard to undo that, so don't do what I did. Find someone in your 20s."